I’m an avid poker player. There are many comparisons between poker and online dating. To “win” at either “game”, you must plan an effective strategy. Part of your plan should include being patient. Poker and online dating are long-term games. You can’t always expect short-term success, but the skilled players will come out ahead in the long run. Or, in the case of online dating, they will find the woman of their dreams.
Numbers are very much a factor in determining the success of a poker player and an online dater. In poker, you’ll go through some bad stretches. Some days, the cards will be against you so much that even the most skilled player could not avoid losing. With online dating, it’s all about contacting as many women as possible. For every 20 or so women you chat with – assuming you know what you’re doing – you should expect to score 1 date.
Most Men Refuse to Play the Numbers Game
The 1 in 20 I mentioned doesn’t include the total number of women you email. Many of your emails will never receive a response. You shouldn’t expect to meet more than 1 out of ever 25 women you contact. Again, that’s assuming you’re skilled at emailing women and chatting with them over text and instant message. If you don’t have the skills down pat, you could email 5,000 women and receive 0 responses. It’s not that uncommon.
The worst mistake you can make is to just give up because you don’t see immediate results. If you know anything about math and statistics, you know that if you average setting up a date with 1 in 25 women you contact, that doesn’t mean you will meet 1 woman every time you send out a batch of 25 emails. You might send out 100 emails this week and set-up 0 dates. Then come back next week and send out 100 emails and set-up 8 dates. In the long run, it will even itself out. If your reason for giving up online dating is because you failed to set-up any dates after sending out 50 emails, you’re making a mistake.
What Should You Do If You’ve Played the Numbers Game and Still Can’t Meet Anyone?
This is where I’m willing to hear an argument for quitting online dating. If you’ve given it your all, maybe it’s not right for you. Or maybe it is. Maybe you’re making mistakes you don’t even realize you’re making. Are you following the advice we teach in our singles dating guide? You have no excuse not to read through it because it’s completely FREE. Before giving up, read through the guide. Read EVERY word of it. Take a look at the emails you’ve been sending women and the chat logs from the conversations you’ve had with them. I bet there are some mistakes you’re making and if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll admit to them.
After you’ve figured out the mistakes, it’s time for you to compare and contrast the advantages and disadvantages of online and offline dating. Personally, I don’t think there is much of a comparison. Online dating is, by far, the best place to meet women. If you go offline looking for someone, your options are limited. You can either meet someone in a bar, have a friend set you up, Church, or at work. I don’t care much for any of those. In a bar, women are drunk and it ends up being way too expensive. If your friends set you up, you’re unable to choose who you want to date. They’re choosing your date for you. Church isn’t a terrible place, but if you’re not religious, it’s not a good idea. And I don’t like dating in the workplace because it causes too many problems. So don’t give up with online dating. Figure out the mistakes you’re making and correct them. You’ll find someone eventually!