Before reading through this post, I have a favor of you. I want you to be completely honest with yourself right now. If you’re currently in a relationship or dating someone, what was your dating situation before her? Had it been months or even years in between dates? Now that we have that out of the way, was this girl the only one you were dating when you met her or were you going out on dates with other women?
The reason I’m asking these questions is because the answers to them will help you decide if your girl truly is “the one” once you’ve finished reading this article. It’s only natural for someone that has gone a long period of time in between relationships to fall hard for the first woman he meets. I’ve seen it happen a million times. A guy that’s been single for 3 years finally meets a girl. He falls hard for her right away because she’s the only one that’s shown him affection in ages. After a few months of dating, she leaves him for another guy and he’s left heartbroken.
I don’t have a definition of “the one”. We’re all looking for something different. However, some people often confuse lust and love. This is especially common with those that have been single for a long time. What happens when you fall hard for a woman that really isn’t your type? Eventually your personalities collide and the relationship crumbles.
You MUST date a woman that you have things in common with
I have a good friend that went more than 2 years without even a date. He got a brand new job and in his training class, there was a girl named Kristin that he thought was gorgeous. They were the same age so they naturally gravitated towards each other. They started going out to lunch together. My friend was so in love with this girl. She was nice to him all the time and he thought she was hot.
After a month or so, he gathered up the courage to ask her out on a date. She said yes. They dated for a month or so and all he could do was talk and think about her. He had fallen hard and fast for this girl. Here’s the problem – they really had nothing in common. He was big into sports, she hated sports. He liked comedy movies, she hated comedy movies. He didn’t like to dance, she loved going to the clubs to get her groove on. The only thing he REALLY liked about her (other than her looks) was that she had shown interest in him. He just didn’t realize this at the time. This relationship never lasted because she got bored. I felt bad for my friend, but this is one of the many reasons I prefer online dating to meeting women at work.
How well does she treat you?
Insecure men that lack self-esteem often just sit there and take it when a woman treats them like dirt. If your woman treats you like crap, she’s not right for you. Don’t ever let a woman push you around. If she’s constantly bitching at you, she’s not the one. She doesn’t truly love you. She loves knowing she has a personal whipping boy. These relationships either don’t last long or the guy ends up being miserable. You know you have a great woman if she treats you like the King of the Castle and will do anything for you.