Dating Dilemma: “I Really Like This Girl But I Don’t Know if There’s Something Better Out There”

I’ve seen it happen too many times. A guy that has been single for a while meets a girl and falls hard for her. He thinks she’s the greatest girl in the world…until the early butterfly’s wear off and she turns into an evil wench. It’s a great feeling to meet a woman and have instant chemistry. When you like a girl and she likes you back, you feel great about yourself. But here’s the thing – instant chemistry doesn’t always lead to a long-term loving relationship.


The purpose of this post is to teach you the importance of dating more than one woman at a time until you finally settle down with someone. I have 2 mini-stories to share with you and they involve friends of mine. Because I know they read this Blog, I’ll use the names “Brian” and “Mike” (not their real names) so they don’t get angry with me. After reading these stories, you’ll understand why I’m advising you to date multiple women for a while.

Long-term loving relationship

Long-term loving relationship

“There’s something about Mary…that I don’t like”

Brian was 25 years of age, recently single after a rocky relationship ended. I got him signed up for Match.com. Less than 3 days after signing up, he met Mary – a 25-year old accountant. The first date, according to Brian, was awesome. As were the next few dates. After 3-4 dates, they became an “item”. Brian was sold on her being his girlfriend and thought the relationship had potential.

Early on, the sex was great and she treated him like a woman should treat a man. No less than 3 weeks into their relationship, her dark side came out. She had some serious anger issues. Brian couldn’t take the constant PMS’ing, so he got rid of her and hopped back on Match.com.

Brian’s mistake? Settling for the first woman he met. Sure, life went on and it wasn’t the end of the world. But he could have saved some minor heartbreak had he gone on dates with other women also instead of settling for the first girl he met. Things won’t always work out with your first date. If you become too caught up in your feelings for her, it might end up biting you in the butt.

 The sex

The sex

“Debbie does Dallas”

Funny enough, my friend Mike was dating a woman named Deborah in the city of Dallas. It’s funny because his Debbie ended up being quite similar to the Debbie from the infamous porno flick “Debbie Dos Dallas”. His Debbie was a cool chick. She was cute, smart, and had an outgoing personality. Much like my friend Brian, things went well initially for Mike and his girl.

Then he found out she was a total whore and, apparently, was also doing every guy in town. Mike had no backup plan. He invested a lot emotionally in Debbie. He wasn’t seeing any other women. In fact, he had cancelled his online dating account because he thought he had found “the one”. Oops! Debbie definitely wasn’t the one. Nor was Mike the only one for Debbie. He had to re-sign up for eHarmony.com and create a brand new profile. The lesson he learned? Date multiple women at first and don’t invest too much emotionally right away in any woman.

Date multiple women

Date multiple women