If there’s one thing that annoys me about some guys when they get a new girlfriend, it’s that they become a different person to please her. This is what we refer to as being “pussy whipped”. I don’t care how desperate you are to get a girlfriend. I don’t care if you’re in a relationship for the first time in your life. You should NEVER change the person you are to please her. If she doesn’t love the real you, then to hell with her.
With that said, you do have to change in some ways to keep your woman happy. Changing the foods you eat or changing the activities you partake in should remain the same. However, you must adjust your lifestyle a bit in order to keep your woman happy. I don’t want you to become a different person for a woman. For example, if you’re a Conservative, you shouldn’t become a Liberal just to please your Bush-hating girl. Your beliefs and interests should remain the same. Instead, make these changes…
The way you dress, style your hair, etc…
I think it’s lame to change your whole style and personality for a girl. If you’re a Redneck kind of guy, you shouldn’t trade in the ripped jeans and Cowboy hats for a suit and tie just to please your woman. She should have fallen for you BECAUSE you’re a country boy, not because she wanted to turn you into a class businessman overnight.
I do, however, believe that it’s okay in some situations for a woman to fix the way you dress. Here’s an example. I have a friend that, after 25 years, finally got a girlfriend. Dude had NO style. He wore Jorts, for crying out loud! And his shirts weren’t any better. His shoes were probably 5 years old. But he found a woman that was willing to look past that because he had a great personality. After they started dating, she took him out to buy a brand new wardrobe. He looked good. I don’t like it when a woman tries to fix a guy, but in this case, I was all for it. You SHOULD look good for your woman. If not, how can you expect her to want to look good for you?
The amount of time you spend with your friends
You know the old saying, “bro’s before ho’s”. The truth is – when you’re in a relationship – it’s “ho’s before bro’s” or there won’t be any “ho’s”. You have to find plenty of time for your woman. Sure, it’s nice to go out with the buddies every once in a while too. But you can’t be ditching your girl for the fellas or there will no longer be a girl.
If you’re dating a woman and she absolutely will not allow you to see your friends, she’s not a keeper. You should get rid of her. But it’s unfair to her for you to put your friends before her. Early in a relationship, you should spend at least as much time with your friends as you do your girlfriend. As the relationship becomes more serious, she needs to be your #1 priority. A relationship cannot exist if you aren’t finding enough time for her.