Why Online Dating Became So Popular

I’ve been using singles dating websites (and even tried out hookup sites on occasion) since 2008. It’s truly amazing how far Internet dating has come over the past 5-6 years. I remember back in the early days of the Internet, if you signed up for a dating site or tried to meet someone on AOL, you were considered a desperate loser. Only the fat chicks and the nerdy guys with severe cases of acne even bothered with online dating.


10 years ago, I never would have guessed how popular online dating would become. There have always been plenty of places for singles to meet (i.e. bars, church, through friends, etc.) and the Internet was never going to change that. Then MySpace and Facebook came around and really changed the landscape of Social Networking. And with that, it became more common for singles to look for other singles online.

By the middle part of the first decade of this century, I noticed a difference in the type of people that were signed up for online dating sites. Instead of 90% of the men and women being desperate and needy, online dating sites began to reflect society. If you walk into a packed bar – assuming it isn’t some ritzy, snobby, stuck-up club – you’ll notice every type of guy and girl. There are the rich, preppy, hot snobs. The Girl Next Door type. The overweight women. The nerdy guys. The handsome guys. The skinny guys. You get the point. Online dating sites now reflect a normal packed bar. Why is that? Because of these 3 reasons…

People Connected to Social Networking Sites

People Connected to Social Networking Sites

Meeting someone online is as easy as 1…2…3

If you want to go out to a bar to meet someone, you have to get all dolled up. Then you have to get in the car, drive to a bar, and figure out whom to talk to. Online dating is so appealing because you can start chatting with someone almost instantly. You don’t have to get dressed, do your hair, shower, etc. No one can see you from behind your computer monitor. We like convenience, and online dating has provided that for singles. Besides, there is no closing time on Internet dating sites. The bartender won’t ask for you to finish your drink at 2:00 AM if you’re not ready to “leave”. You can meet people on your time.

Meeting with women online dating

Meeting with women online dating

We’re all pretty much addicted to the Internet

I remember when I first started using the Internet back in the 1990’s. It was fun. My earliest memories were trying to look up baseball scores. But that’s really all I used it for. Now I’m online 3-4 hours per day. Sometimes more. So why not chat with women during the time I’m spending online? Plain and simple – we spend a lot more time online now than we did even in, say, 2000. We’re an Internet-based society and that has led to the increase in popularity of online dating sites and Social Networking sites.

You can’t pre-screen men and women in a bar

The only thing we really know about someone we see in a bar is their looks. So we have to base our decision on whether or not to talk to them if we find them attractive. Of course, just because you find someone physically attractive, it doesn’t mean you have anything in common with them. The most appealing aspect of online dating is you can get to know some things about someone before ever contacting them.

 Searching more attractive women

Searching more attractive women

 

How to Turn Yourself Into “Boyfriend Material”

A woman can meet a guy and think he’s cool and may be even slightly attractive. Does that mean she’ll want to date him? Absolutely not. Women classify a man – shortly after meeting him in person – either as a potential boyfriend or a potential friend. It’s all based on how you present yourself to her, how you act around her, and the vibe she gets from you.

The problem many guys have is they simply are not boyfriend material. They’re nice guys that women would enjoy spending time with, but not in a romantic way. If you’re not boyfriend material, you can do something about that. After reading this article, you’ll know exactly how to avoid the friend zone and start convincing women you’d make an excellent romantic partner.

You are looking excellent romantic partner

You are looking excellent romantic partner

Dress like you’re trying to impress her

If you’re hanging out with a friend, you probably don’t care much about the way you look. I certainly don’t care what my friends think of my attire. I’m not trying to get down their pants. If you don’t show up for a date dressed like a freakin’ stud, she’ll immediately reject you as a romantic partner.

Looks aren’t everything in a relationship. In fact, looks are only a small part of a relationship – unless she’s a stuck-up, shallow bitch. But women want to date men that dress well. It shows them that you care about your appearance the way you look for them. You can’t do anything about your God-given looks. But you can make yourself more attractive to women simply by improving upon your style and taking care of yourself. If you’re not concerned with your appearance, women won’t be concerned with having a relationship with you.

Put down the video games and Star Wars action figures

I guarantee you aren’t a bigger Star Wars and video game geek than I am. I play World of Warcraft like it’s going out of style. However, you don’t have to drag me away from my video games in order to take a woman out to dinner. Nor will you ever catch me inviting a girl that I like over to pwn no0bz!

Women date men that are mature. As much as I love video games, I can admit it’s not the most mature hobby. You need to be a well-rounded guy in order to impress women. If you spend every waking hour “using the force”, why would any decent woman want to date you? Even women that are also into Star Wars and video games don’t want men that sit around the house all day. I’ve never met a woman that was interested in dating a man that sat around playing games all day. I’ve known plenty that will hangout with this type of guy, but only as friends. Do you want to pwn no0bz with her or have sex with her? It’s your choice.

Have sex with women

Have sex with women

Learn to be romantic and sweet

If you don’t know how to display a feminine side, you’ll never become anything more than friend material for women. You’ll be that guy women go to when they need a buddy to watch a movie with in the middle of the day or to complain about their douchebag boyfriend to.

When you’re around women you like, don’t be afraid to let out that sweet, caring side I know you have deep down. Open doors for her. Hold her hand when you’re walking. Give her your jacket if it’s chilly outside. Flirt with her and make light physical contact with her. When I’m around the fellas, I never act this way. I’m not suggesting you should. On a date with a cute girl…damn right I will!

You can flirt with women and make light physical contact with her

You can flirt with women and make light physical contact with her

Change Your Ways, Not Who You Are For a Woman

If there’s one thing that annoys me about some guys when they get a new girlfriend, it’s that they become a different person to please her. This is what we refer to as being “pussy whipped”. I don’t care how desperate you are to get a girlfriend. I don’t care if you’re in a relationship for the first time in your life. You should NEVER change the person you are to please her. If she doesn’t love the real you, then to hell with her.

With that said, you do have to change in some ways to keep your woman happy. Changing the foods you eat or changing the activities you partake in should remain the same. However, you must adjust your lifestyle a bit in order to keep your woman happy. I don’t want you to become a different person for a woman. For example, if you’re a Conservative, you shouldn’t become a Liberal just to please your Bush-hating girl. Your beliefs and interests should remain the same. Instead, make these changes…

The way you dress, style your hair, etc…

I think it’s lame to change your whole style and personality for a girl. If you’re a Redneck kind of guy, you shouldn’t trade in the ripped jeans and Cowboy hats for a suit and tie just to please your woman. She should have fallen for you BECAUSE you’re a country boy, not because she wanted to turn you into a class businessman overnight.

I do, however, believe that it’s okay in some situations for a woman to fix the way you dress. Here’s an example. I have a friend that, after 25 years, finally got a girlfriend. Dude had NO style. He wore Jorts, for crying out loud! And his shirts weren’t any better. His shoes were probably 5 years old. But he found a woman that was willing to look past that because he had a great personality. After they started dating, she took him out to buy a brand new wardrobe. He looked good. I don’t like it when a woman tries to fix a guy, but in this case, I was all for it. You SHOULD look good for your woman. If not, how can you expect her to want to look good for you?

You must adjust your lifestyle a bit in order to keep your woman happy

You must adjust your lifestyle a bit in order to keep your woman happy

The amount of time you spend with your friends

You know the old saying, “bro’s before ho’s”. The truth is – when you’re in a relationship – it’s “ho’s before bro’s” or there won’t be any “ho’s”. You have to find plenty of time for your woman. Sure, it’s nice to go out with the buddies every once in a while too. But you can’t be ditching your girl for the fellas or there will no longer be a girl.

If you’re dating a woman and she absolutely will not allow you to see your friends, she’s not a keeper. You should get rid of her. But it’s unfair to her for you to put your friends before her. Early in a relationship, you should spend at least as much time with your friends as you do your girlfriend. As the relationship becomes more serious, she needs to be your #1 priority. A relationship cannot exist if you aren’t finding enough time for her.

 you can find dating a woman

you can find dating a woman

What I Look for in a Woman Before Meeting Her in Person

I’ve been around online dating for quite some time now. I’ve met enough women to have a sense for what to expect from them before meeting offline. My intuition is usually spot on. I can’t always know we’ll be a good match, but I do have certain things I look for in a woman online. By sticking to these standards, the chances of her and I ending up together are high.

Viewing Her Profile: Signs I Should Contact Her

A profile says a lot about a woman, but it’s not enough to know if she’s girlfriend material. All a profile is good for is to give me an idea of whether or not she’s a decent woman. However, people lie in their profiles quite a bit. I won’t know if she’s being honest about herself until I talk to her. Here are the main things I look for in a woman from her profile…

  • Positive tone – If her profile is laced with negative comments, it’s a total turnoff. Why would I want to get to know some whiny, bitchy woman? I like women that are positive.
  • Misspelled words and improper grammar – Yeah, I’m a bit of a Grammar/Spelling Nazi. But, to me, having a profile filled with misspelled words and bad grammar shows a lack of intelligence.
  • Sense of humor – This one isn’t a deal breaker. If her profile doesn’t make me laugh, I’ll still contact her if it has the other qualities I look for. However, I do like a woman with a good sense of humor.
  • Common interests – Obviously, it’s hard to maintain a relationship with a woman you have nothing in common with. We don’t have to share the exact same interests, but it’s important that we have a couple interests in common.
  • Doesn’t appear to be stuck-up– If I read quotes such as “I only date guys taller than 6-feet”, I won’t even bother. Women that absolutely must date the most perfect physical specimen are not my type – and I’m not theirs.

    Guys look online dating profile

    Guys look online dating profile

IM and Text Messaging: When I Know I Must Ask Her Out

As you will find, there are women you contact that you wish you hadn’t. Women often lie in their profiles. Or, they leave something important out. For example, I once contacted this girl because she seemed very interesting and mature from her profile. I chatted with her for a while and then she brought up her opiate addiction and subsequent Methadone Clinic visits. Had to get rid of her fast! Much like dating profiles, I never know for sure if a woman I’m texting/IM’ing is “the one”, but here are the signs I look for when chatting with her…

  • Appears interested in me – I’m not going to waste my time with a woman that clearly isn’t into me. If every comment she makes is 1-2 words in length, I know she’s not digging me.
  • Asks me questions – This goes back to her appearing interested in me. If a woman is asking you questions, she’s interested in you. She wants to get to know you better.
  • Is an enjoyable conversation – If the conversation with her is boring over IM/text, I can’t see a relationship ever working. You have to enjoy talking to each other in order to maintain a strong relationship.
  • Gives me her digits– I like it when a woman offers to give me her digits. It’s not a deal breaker if she doesn’t. But it lets me know that – when chatting via IM – she’s definitely at least somewhat interested.

    Searching a strong relationship

    Searching a strong relationship

“It’s Not You It’s Me” and Other Womanisms

I love women. I love almost everything about them. I really do. But there are certain things they say and do that make me shake my head. I refer to these head-scratchers as “Womanisms”. I have compiled a list of Womanisms and what they mean…

It’s not you it’s me” means she doesn’t like you and it IS you. This is her feeble attempt of letting you down nicely. How sweet of her…to lie to you. I’d rather a woman just tell me I suck in bed and I smell bad than lie to me. No woman could hurt my ego, no matter what she said.


No it’s fine” means it’s not fine and she’s pissed at you when said angrily. This one drives me crazy. Again, I hate it when a woman lies to me. Just tell me what’s on your mind and I’ll be more than happy to work to make you happy!

We need to take a break” means she’s dumping you and has no intentions of ever getting back to you. She’s taking a lifelong break from you. Perhaps in another lifetime, you’ll resume your relationship.

You go have fun, I’ll just stay home all by myself” means if you go out and have fun, she won’t be there when you get home. Nor will she be there the next day. Or the day after that. She’s going to go out and meet some other guy that won’t leave her home alone on a Friday night.

I don’t want to ruin our friendship” means she’s not attracted to you. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends with someone, if she really is attracted to you, she’ll be open to having a romantic relationship with you. Women become friends with men they aren’t attracted to. She’s just too nice to admit the truth to you.

 Having a romantic relationship

Having a romantic relationship

I will come back to your place but I won’t have sex with you” means she wants you to make sweet love to her. In most cases, a woman will not go back to a man’s place if she isn’t willing to have sex or at least fool around. All you have to learn is how to have some game and smooth talk your way into her pants. Her hormones will kick in and she’ll change her mind if you play your cards right.

 Have a sex

Have a sex

I’m too busy…” means she’s not into you if you’ve just started dating her. When a woman likes a guy, she finds time for him. It doesn’t matter how busy her schedule is. If she’s into you, she’ll stop what she’s doing or come see you late at night, even if she’s not a night owl.

It’s okay, honey, I can finish myself off” after sex means you suck in bed and she’s pissed off. If you get off before she does and just leave her hanging, eventually she’s going to leave you for a man that knows how to pleasure a woman. Don’t make her have to finish herself off.

Men and Women sex means you suck in bed

Men and Women sex means you suck in bed

Nothing will happen, I promise” in reference to hanging out with her ex means she’s going to sleep with him. That’s just what happens when a girl gets together with the ex. If she didn’t still like him, she wouldn’t feel the need to hangout with him. If she says this, she’s definitely going to cheat on you.